Im sure in my GothCode I say that Im allergic to children... Thats not
really true. I quite like children actually - maybe Im able to relate to them on
their level! The truth is that Im not sure Im mature enough to raise a child.
Im far too busy enjoying myself to devote twenty years of my life to raising
some horrid brat who will end up just leaving home. If anything, Hilde is even
more anti-child than I am.
On the other hand, deep down I think Id be quite a good father; and it would be
nice to leave something behind. A childless old-age might be a little
The Bishop of Rochester recently berated childless thirty-somethings for being
selfish. They should do their bit for the species and the economy, was roughly
his point. I think in his own rather vacuous way hes raised an interesting issue:
because I dont think Im selfish. Sure I want some time to enjoy life, but that
doesnt seem unreasonable to me. I think the Bishop has missed the fact that life
is very different today from times past.
In former times, people had an extended family to help with child rearing. It
wasnt hard to find a baby-sitter because your sister/brother/cousin lived
just down the street, and was happy to help because youd looked after their
little tyke the day before. Today, most people dont have a support system like
that - they have to do all the work themselves and it is far too much.
I think that if ever I have children it will be with the support of such a
community. Perhaps not brothers or cousins, but like-minded friends. Thats
better for the parents, and better for the children. Hilde said this a while ago,
and it makes a lots of sense to me.
On the other hand, if it doesnt happen then so be it. Hilde and I will be happy,
even if the Bishop of Rochester isnt.