Marriage is worthless unless its a partnership of equals. At its best it
gives us a rock to cling to in an uncertain World. Life is a frightening
thing when youre on your own.|
To have someone swear that they will never leave, whatever; this gives life
a calm centre. It means you dont have to be frightened.
This trust is the ultimate gift exchange. It has to be completely selfless;
if you expect something in return then youre doomed. At the same time
though, its like leaning on one another. Lifes easier for you both, but
if one side stops pushing, then the other side cant lean against thin air.
So, I admit that there is an implicit contract - but you shouldnt
I know that this sounds like an advertisement for marriage. To offset this
impression have a look here. Also, you should
know this... Im really
happy with my marriage, but my feelings now are totally different from how
they were when I got married. I dont think that its anything more than
random chance that Hilde and I have developed such a happy way of living
with each other. It wasnt pre-ordained. It wasnt through hard work. It
was just lucky. I really hope that we stay lucky...